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Wednesday, August 03, 2005
There are a hundred apples on> the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!> We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few> more apple trees?" Nature has something to teach us here. It's> telling us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So> if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more> than once.">> This might mean:> - You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.> - You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.> - You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum> cleaner, one insurance policy, or a business idea.> - And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special> friend.>> When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so> disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with> things that happen to us. Laws of nature are not things to take> personally.> We just need to understand them and work with them.>> IN A NUTSHELL> Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.> When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must> NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:> - You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.> - You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.>> Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry.> That's what miserable people do!>> On the other hand, let's say you expect that:> - Friends SHOULD return favors.> - People SHOULD appreciate you.> - Planes SHOULD arrive on time.> - Everyone SHOULD be honest.> - Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.>> These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things> won't happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed.> There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have> preferences!> For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:> "I would prefer "A", but if "B" happens, it's OK too!">> This is really a change in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and it> gives you more peace of mind ... You prefer that people are polite .> but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day.> You prefer sunshine...but if it rains, it is ok too!> To become happier, we either need to change the world or change our> thinking.>> It is easier to change our Thinking!
Are you just not willing,
Or am I just not good enough
7:16 PM
You think that I don't bother .
There are a hundred apples on> the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!> We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few> more apple trees?" Nature has something to teach us here. It's> telling us: "Not all seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So> if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more> than once.">> This might mean:> - You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job.> - You'll interview forty people to find one good employee.> - You'll talk to fifty people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum> cleaner, one insurance policy, or a business idea.> - And you might meet a hundred acquaintances just to find one special> friend.>> When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so> disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal with> things that happen to us. Laws of nature are not things to take> personally.> We just need to understand them and work with them.>> IN A NUTSHELL> Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.> When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must> NOT DO so as to avoid misery in your life:> - You must not decide how you think the world SHOULD be.> - You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.>> Then, when the world doesn't obey your rules, you get angry.> That's what miserable people do!>> On the other hand, let's say you expect that:> - Friends SHOULD return favors.> - People SHOULD appreciate you.> - Planes SHOULD arrive on time.> - Everyone SHOULD be honest.> - Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.>> These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things> won't happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed.> There's a better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have> preferences!> For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself:> "I would prefer "A", but if "B" happens, it's OK too!">> This is really a change in mindset. It is a shift in attitude, and it> gives you more peace of mind ... You prefer that people are polite .> but when they are rude, it doesn't ruin your day.> You prefer sunshine...but if it rains, it is ok too!> To become happier, we either need to change the world or change our> thinking.>> It is easier to change our Thinking!
Are you just not willing,
Or am I just not good enough
7:16 PM
but i do.